Inability of Adult Parent to Provide Needs of Children
I have no way in communicating with the father of my children. He, however assumes his right to visitation on his terms. The following is an excerpt of the process taken to re-assess financial means for child support in the country of Australia.
It is Tuesday 17th of July 2007 and it is 11:54am. The phone conference with Child Support Agency has just ended.
I spoke with a Senior Case Officer. After reviewing the documents that were forwarded to me via my ex-husband, she was agreeable that I mail the following text response to - no names - lets call him - Mr Father – my childrens’ biological father, using the C.S.A as a vehicle for delivery.
Attention: Father of Two Most Beautiful Girls
There is no avenue for discussion?. How does one overcome a personal attribute that disables one’s function that would enable the expression of dialogue to occur?
Raising children is a moral responsibility – both tangible and intangible. I wish somehow, on behalf of the children, that an adult could identify his means of support in terms of what his education has fortuned him.
A harmonious family environment is the ethos we adopt whereby each and every member of the family is respected as an individual first – the status within the unit (child/sibling) comes secondary.
The personal development Agent 96 has encountered has been huge for a little girl of 11 years. I speak on behalf of her. It is moreover the psychological impact this/ongoing event has had on her life that endangers her environment for learning. Agent 96 has suffered dysfunctions that namely affect her self esteem which in turn disables her learning by a distraction named: Fear.
I would greatly appreciate the use of conscious awareness, sensitivity and realism when in her presence.
We hold a family meeting on Sunday nights when the children return from their visit. This occurs because of the confusion they identify when being with the company of their – SCF – a term formed by Agent 96, meaning, so-called-father.
Agent 96 sat at the dining table maintaining eye contact and told of how she “put her arms around her “scf” then tears formed in her eyes, “he walked away”, she said – “I felt invisible”. How terribly wrong.
Relating to Agent 01, the youngest member of the family. She has formed her own opinion of her father, which when heard by myself disturbed me greatly. Why? Because the term she used was void in my dialogue. Parenting takes on all forms of understanding. She identifies her father as being mean and confusing, therefore naming him a word that means “out of wedlock”, according to the dictionary. How then should a parent act? Make her aware of the truth. Dastard.
If we as adults can identify that through the journey of life that challenges are presented to us to overcome then why are we not mature enough to see that the lives of the future depend upon this. I raise the future.
Life is neither about fight nor struggle. It is about the future. The past is indicative of this. However do we want to learn? For the sake of the future – the children look to us for direction, strength, encouragement, love and most of all their birthright – security. Look at the future, take a look into the eyes of a child.
It is no wonder that within society people tend to embrace accountable morale, however unable to grasp the reality of responsible morality.
It is my purpose that I write this mail so it can account in time for the years to come. History that both my children will have as part of their life. I want them able to fit the pieces of the jigsaw together by their own method – they already are.
Does one think by way of attachment to the children that he should be afforded the right to decide upon when he should “see” them or when it is appropriate for visitation? Or does one not think at all? Fortunately I have allowed you this right, on a deeper level, the children are aware of this. That is the reason why I have not interfered with anyone’s right and accepted things as they become. A self realization in time for all involved.
Furthermore one may ask. How to resource information to encourage the growth of a child? Become a responsible optimum person first and prepare the future by learning from history/past. Every moment that passes becomes it. Beyond materialism and illusion that society paints in our faces we can emerge and observe the truth free from negative inward self-harm that projects upon others.
The vehicle that travels in time is the genetic result of the future: children – give them the quality of time and afford them that of which you can.
Person, Mother, Teacher and Friend to my beautiful children Agent 96 being 11yrs and Agent 01 being 6yrs.
In addition, to further information/communication regarding the children I am willing to communicate without tone. My email is: —–
The Feminisation of Man has inspired me to publish this publicly.
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